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"Happiness is a choice, not a result. Nothing will make you happy until you choose to be happy. No person will make you happy unless you decide to be happy. Your happiness will not come to you. It can only come from you."

- (via stevenrosas)

"Never change who you are just because you’re afraid of losing someone. If they really love you, your imperfections won’t matter."

- (via stevenrosas)

He Says, She Says: Who Says?

He Says

I’m left with no option, I have but no choices, yeah she could be someone I could possibly think of spending my life with but who am I kidding, she was never what I set out to be with. Is she not nice enough, beautiful, kind ….. Perhaps, but she just isn’t the women of my dreams.

What she lacks in my ideals she makes up with her willingness to sacrifice just about everything for me. But, I’m a men and everything sometimes is just not enough. She does not look it; I mean she doesn’t really look the part.

You know I always imagined tall, lanky, gorgeous women with silky long hair that I could wake up to every day. But does this ideal women really exist, of course she does. She is just unattainable. She wants me because she can’t have me but would that change the moment I drop what I have now? How can I be sure of that?

Of course I can’t … So what if I take a chance on this imperfect woman, who falls shorts of my ideals? But will I constantly look over my shoulders, wondering, craving for what could have been? How would I ever be happy then? Is it a human condition, to want what you can’t have? To desire what will never be?

Am I being fair to this imperfect woman then?  If she is willing to leave everything she knows for me and yet I doubt our union, would it be right for me to continue down this path? But if I was just blinded by what could be of my past then I fail to see what is staring me right in front of my face?

Then why did I even pursue it? Was it in the hopes of forgetting my past? Yet my past keeps haunting me no matter how hard I try to keep it in the past.

She Says

He seems to want to move forward yet he refuses to take a step forward. I can’t seem to figure it out, it’s like his mind is telling him one thing while his heart is asking him to look the other way. Something is not right, I can feel it.

I always knew he wasn’t what you would call a romantic, but he has always been there- he does everything someone you care about would do for you.

But is that really enough? Do you really want to be with someone who does not really know if they want to be with you?

Caring for someone is one thing, I know people who care for me, but those who would be there for the long haul. It’s nice to have company but forced company is yet another thing altogether.

But as times progresses forward, I can’t help but wonder if I’m merely an option, not a choice but an option he could take. I know he cares, I know he does, perhaps he might even love me a little. But I did not wait all this years, for someone who thinks I’m a maybe. Someone who is not sure…

Our friendship has been beautiful; I owe my life to him for his love of God, for introducing me once again to our Maker.  

So perhaps it is time I let him go, he is still young, and he hasn’t quite figure it out yet. 

I refuse to be an option, in passing. I deserve much better. Of course it will hurt, but what is a woman to do? 

Someone once told me, if you do anything, do it with all your heart, do it completely, and so I did with him wholeheartedly.

I have no regrets.

Have your say, if you were him, if you were her?

"Celebrate your efforts, not your outcomes. Failure keeps you humble, success keeps you glowing, but only faith and determination keeps you going. Challenges are what make life interesting, overcoming them is what gives life meaning."

- (via stevenrosas)

Moments In Life: 5 ways to add more life to your years.

stevenrosas:

  1. Be you. – There’s no better freedom than the freedom to be yourself. Give yourself that gift, and choose to surround yourself with those who appreciate your decision. Don’t let someone change who you are, to become what they need. Be you in the beautiful way only you can, to become what you…

"Right now is a fresh start. Talk about your blessings more than you talk about your problems. It’s a bright new day, a new beginning. Your future is too bright to waste it fighting needless battles with old issues from the past."

- (via stevenrosas)

lokisoldiergothiddlestoned:

corra-18:

irishsub:

she is such a great lady.

*cries with utter joy*

SHE DID IT THE EXACT SAME WAY WHAT

(via jasnitha)

Last Saturday, I lost my grandma who has been battling Alzheimer since her 70s. A fighter, this woman fought her last battle in her 82 year.

Growing up, Pati spoilt us silly, us grandkids with anything we desired be it a radio or walkman. Staying in the same town we received more gifts, trips to town, the playground and weekends/ school holidays spent being pampered.

We knew the day would come. Yet somehow I felt that she would always be there, she would always be around. It did not seem possible to have a life without her in it.

Yet that day has come. Armed with memories of her dancing to the Lambada, giving and receiving kisses, being subjected to her interrogation about boyfriends, about traditional remedies or just listening to her stories, I’m left here, feeling empty-feeling lost.

How do you deal with the loss even when they are old? Even when you know its their time. Knowing you will never ever lay your eyes on them again.

How do you?

Pati, on the 7th day I finally feel .

You are leaving us for good to be with him….

Yet it still hurts…. But I’m glad to finally let go. It’s hard holding back and trying to be strong..

Last Saturday, I lost my grandma who has been battling Alzheimer since her 70s. A fighter, this woman fought her last battle in her 82 year.

Growing up, Pati spoilt us silly, us grandkids with anything we desired be it a radio or walkman. Staying in the same town we received more gifts, trips to town, the playground and weekends/ school holidays spent being pampered.

We knew the day would come. Yet somehow I felt that she would always be there, she would always be around. It did not seem possible to have a life without her in it.

Yet that day has come. Armed with memories of her dancing to the Lambada, giving and receiving kisses, being subjected to her interrogation about boyfriends, about traditional remedies or just listening to her stories, I’m left here, feeling empty-feeling lost.

How do you deal with the loss even when they are old? Even when you know its their time. Knowing you will never ever lay your eyes on them again.

How do you?

Pati, on the 7th day I finally feel .

You are leaving us for good to be with him….

Yet it still hurts…. But I’m glad to finally let go. It’s hard holding back and trying to be strong..